He who knows the Tao does not care to speak about it.
He who is ever ready to speak about it does not know it.
Tao Te Ching - Chapter 55
According to Taoist principals there are times and
circumstances under which it is considered unwise to have sex.
Good health requires that Qi be balanced within the organs and
meridians of the body. Sexual activity, for all its pleasure,
concentrates the body's Qi in the genital area. This, in turn,
leaves the rest of the organs and the body vulnerable to outside
influences. Taking in energy from the Universe is usually beneficial,
but at certain times and in certain circumstances problems can
arise. The likelihood of problems arising from sexual activity
under these circumstances is so high, that they have become known
as 'The Forbiddens.' Damage, in these circumstances, refers not
just to physical damage, but to damage at the emotional, mental
and spiritual levels. Damage, emotionally, according to Taoist
principals, will almost always lead to a physical manifestation
of some sort, even if it is not apparent right away.
In the West, we are prone to ignoring things until
they show up in the body. If you feel anything but loving and
intimate about a sexual encounter, either at the time or afterwards,
this would be considered 'damage' in the Taoist view.
1. When a person is drunk. Someone already over
stimulated by alcohol, may suffer damage from the added stimulation
2. When a person is under the influence of drugs
- either recreational or prescription. Foreign substances in the
body create an imbalance which may be exacerbated by sexual activity.
3. During sex, the genitals are energized at the
expense of the rest of the body. It is best to refrain from sexual
activity when extremely fatigued.
4. Sexual activity is forbidden during a serious
illness as this will further deplete the body.
5. A person with Venereal disease or Hepatitis should
refrain from sexual activity as the body needs energy to heal
6. Wait 90 days following surgery. The body needs
its energy to heal.
7. Refrain from sexual activity for 12 - 24 hours
following an Acupuncture treatment. Acupuncture balances the Qi
of the body. Sexual activity unbalances it.
8. During pregnancy, sexual intercourse may harm
the fetus, which is otherwise at peace in the mother's womb. The
effect is like an earthquake to the baby. This is particularly
essential during the last trimester. During pregnancy it is the
Mother's job to protect the foetus and should refrain from violent
or strenuous activity, as she should protect herself from emotional
stress and upset. Qigong exercises are recommended. both for physical
strengthening and emotional balance.
9. During menstruation the vagina is open and vulnerable
to infection and harm. Sex should be avoided.
10. There is a saying never go to bed angry. Anger
creates toxic and chaotic Qi, which is intensified during sex.
11. Wait at least 30 minutes following a hot bath
or shower, Hot water stimulates the body. Sex will further stimulate
causing an imbalance.
12. Wait 60 minutes following eating. Sexual activity
takes energy away from the digestive process and may cause an
13. Immediately after urination. Wait 10 - 20 minutes.
Not only is there the chance of transferring germs, but for men,
the penis is stimulated in a different way in urination and an
imbalance could result.
14. With the eyes open. Eyes are the 'window to
the soul.' Much energy is lost through the eyes. Since sex concentrates
the body's energy in the genitalia, other parts of the body should
be protected. This is particularly true for men. Internal focus
15. One should not have sex in a moving vehicle.
Qi could become very chaotic resulting in serious imbalances.
16. One should not have sex in church, or other
sacred sites. According to Taoists the spirits who inhabit these
sites could become jealous. While this may be no more than a superstition,
I think most people have a natural reluctance to desecrate sacred
17. During battle, or conflict of any time in the
area. The surrounding energy will be dangerously chaotic.
18. During a hurricane, tornado, earthquake, or
similar violent act of nature, it is unwise to have sex for the
19. It is unwise to have sex during a Full Moon
which is a time of high energy and over-stimulation, or during
a New Moon, which is a time of low energy and depletion.
20. It is unwise to have sex at sunset as this
is a time of low energy.
21. It is unwise to have sex during the Summer and
Winter Solstices. These are times of change in the Earth's electro-magnetic
field and Qi is very chaotic.
Conceiving a Child.
Children are very important in any society. Conception
is a sacred act in most philosophies. The Taoists took this responsibility
very seriously. The following are guidelines for conceiving a
1. It is unwise to conceive a child if either parent
is drunk or alcoholic. A child born from these conditions will
have liver problems, nervous conditions and susceptibility to
2. Conceiving a child when either of the parents
is extremely tired will result in a sickly child with little resistance
3. Conceiving a child during battle in wartime will
result in a hyperactive child with a violent nature. This also
applies to more personal battles, such as divorce, family power
struggles, and upset of any kind at the personal or family level.
Pregnant woman should never fight.
4. Conceiving during a hurricane or a violent storm
of any kind will result in a child with low resistance to disease.
5. Conceiving a child during a sunset will result
in a child with eye problems.
6. A child conceived by a parent under the influence
of drugs will have nervous and/or mental problems.
7. It is essential that parents make every effort
to be in good health themselves, by eating well, exercising, thinking
positively, and conceive in a pleasant and peaceful environment.
According to Taoist principals it is the responsibility
of parents to ensure that succeeding generations are strong and
healthy. Conceiving a child is a serious matter that requires
much thought and consideration. It is a basic tenet of Taoist
belief that the family is the backbone of any society. A strong
family structure is reflected in a strong culture and society.
No family is strong if the individuals are weak.
Taoists then take great pains to assure that potential
couples are compatible at all levels.
To the Taoist it is not only bad form but downright
uncivilized for people to procreate like animals with little or
no thought for the results. It is quite harmful for both parent
and child to conceive for any ulterior purpose.
Couples who love each other and are concerned for
their children make sure that sex is always done in pleasant,
peaceful surroundings and often enhanced with mild herbal teas,
creams, candles and scents. In this, Feng Shui is often applied,
and the I Ching consulted prior to having sex. In Taoist philosophy,
'making love' is more than just a euphemism. It is a bonding between
2 people that reflects the bonding between human and Divine, and
is undertaken in that light. Children are never a mistake.